One woman’s honest-to-a-fault depiction of, and reflections on, modern dating.
In case you don’t already know me, I’m Emily—a mostly white, straight, cis woman. Pretty basic, I know.
I moved to NYC in January 2013 when I was 22. Dating apps were hot, and I was hooked within the year.
I went on a LOT of dates.
In 2015, exhausted from relaying every romantic update to every individual friend, I started a BCC email thread so I could efficiently inform everyone about who I was texting, dating, fucking, and/or crying over. The email thread eventually got too unwieldy so I moved all those updates over here.
Now it’s 2026 and my dating primarily takes place in LA and off the apps. Come along for the ride if you’re curious!
P.S. For the full reading-someone-else’s-diary experience, I highly recommend starting at #1 and catching up chronologically. If you’re in a hurry, at least start at #101.
Why Subscribe?
Updates are as impromptu as life itself, so I can’t promise any regular posting cadence. However, when I do post, I can promise an open window into the heart, mind, and sometimes bed of a real-life gal who’s just looking for love. Voyeurs, rejoice!
To preserve a modicum of my privacy, I’ve sequestered the most sensitive and/or salacious content behind a paywall. This newsletter is ultimately for my nearest & dearest, but I’ll also sell the tea to paying customers. (And I couldn’t not price it at $69/year.) If you know me, just reach out and I’ll comp your subscription.
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“It's a nice glimpse into another single person's life, entertaining and I enjoy the parts beyond dating where you explore what you need/want in general to define what you need/want in dating”
“Extremely well written AND fun tales of the roller coaster of dating in NYC. Relatable and fascinating”
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