The short of it:
I finally put my 16-month situationship with Goodtime Guy out of its misery and am officially single again! (I still think he’s a lovely person, but we are not right for each other.)
The (very) long of it:
As previously mentioned, I’d been having second thoughts about Goodtime Guy for a while. For the majority of the time I was abroad, I felt our communication wasn’t up to the quality or frequency I’d want in a “real” relationship. On one hand, I felt light and independent, not worrying about when I’d hear from him. But on the other hand, it felt odd that neither of us was clamoring to talk all that often. It sorta just seemed like we didn’t have much to say, or that we didn’t really miss each other. When we did talk, I started to notice how differently we approach The Big Things, like career, lifestyle, and money.
Then, after my permaculture design course blew my mind open to the possibilities of what my life could look like, I felt motivated to start taking bigger steps toward the future I wanted. While Goodtime Guy and I share a similar idyllic vision of moving abroad and having a home with a garden and creative spaces, it was becoming clear that I’m much further along on that path than he is—and I didn’t want to wait around for him to maybe catch up.